My husband dreams of buying an original piece of art one day so we stray into art galleries on our rare weekends away. We stroll through discussing what we see. What we like. What we don’t. Picking out that original piece of art gradually changed from a notch on our belt…something to hang on the wall and accomplish, a box to check, into a marriage journey of sorts.
A few years passed before I took my husband seriously. Buying this original piece is a life dream of his. I like art and I like original art but I tend to be, how shall I say it? Cheap. My husband is frugal and between the two lies a great chasm. The cost stared me down for years, a barrier to enjoying our art gallery browsing.
At one time, my husband liked the “painter of light” and I most definitely did not. The ensuing years fleshed out how I felt and forced him to define why he liked what he liked. Too perfect, too defined, too cliché to me. Safe, complete, harmonious, calm to him. I looked at Kincaid in the mall and understood the peace he craves in contrast to the chaos of his upbringing. I still don’t like Kincaid or art in the mall but I understood why he liked Kincaid. He began to understand me too. He began to appreciate the messiness in art that describes so much of life. The play of colors slashed across a canvas whispered to him and then he understood me just a little more. Life is messy.
Eventually I embraced our quest for original low-end art. I accepted my husband’s dream and took it on as my own. Now I dream the dream as well. We finally realized with a spark of shock after 14 years of marriage that the pilgrimage to our piece of art is more about our marriage than the art. Through art we discover each other. As my love for a style I don’t even know how to name clashes with my husbands mild distaste for same said style, we meet, my husband and I. We discover each other. We grow and change and put words to the changes through the media of brush strokes and colors on a canvas.
I feel we never will find our piece of art. Our search spans like a railroad track that veers closer and closer but never quite meets this side of heaven. In fact, I almost oppose actually purchasing a piece because I enjoy the journey so much. Wandering the streets of the world and popping in shops…talking about us through art.
The blank wall remains open filling up with more than the permanence of a painting.
What place does art take in your life?